You have probably heard small white lies from your girlfriend to dissolve disagreements and avoid arguments or conflicts. She often does this because it may appear effective because you choose not to engage in arguments.
“I’m going to bed early”: She may end the call to attend to other matters or talk to others; that’s to avoid details and arguments. She will inform you that she’s tired and wants to go to bed early. Respect her decision and provide her with the necessary space.
“It’s nothing, I just want space”: If she tells you there’s no problem, yet she’s giving you the cold shoulder and asking for space, then there’s something. There’s definitely a problem; she may be seeing someone else or is no longer interested in the relationship. If she’s pulling away but telling you not to worry, you should start preparing yourself for anything.
“He’s my uncle”: In some cases, these ‘uncles’ are older men who have previously expressed romantic interest in the woman. Even if the woman turned down their advances, they may still maintain a friendly relationship with them. If your girlfriend is frequently spending time with and even going on vacations with such an ‘uncle,’ it may be reasonable to have open and honest conversations about the nature of their relationship. Also, consider doing further research to ensure that trust and boundaries are being maintained.
“He’s my best friend; we’re just friends”: Sometimes women may find themselves in situations where they have close male friends, and while they genuinely value the friendship, they are mostly aware that their male friend might have romantic intentions. When their partners express concerns about the closeness between them and their male friends, women may defend their friendship, often downplaying any potential romantic interest. They may claim that they are friends, knowing very well that these friends are potential rivals to their partners.
“When she’s on a call with someone else”: While she may be talking to a friend or relatives on the phone, if you notice a pattern of her consistently missing your calls and leaving your messages on read during these calls, it might be worth addressing the situation with open communication.
“I bought it myself”: If she receives a gift from another man and she doesn’t want you to complain, she’s likely to say that she bought it herself, which puts an end to the issue. Remember, if you don’t want your girlfriend to receive gifts from other guys, take the appropriate action.
Source: Ghana/MaxTV/MaxFM/max.com.gh/Belinda Quansah
